I know you must be wondering why I let my Little
DC talk to strangers. Not talking to people you don’t know is not all about
safety. It is about how you can teach your child about communicating politely
with others and using common sense when there is danger or not. How could my
child learn how to prevent danger when he himself cannot tell danger from
ordinary events?
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Trusting my son’s perceptions
Not all strangers are bad. Who else will they turn to if they're lost and need help and there's no policeman around? Teaching our children when it's appropriate to talk to strangers and when it's not, could make our children more confident in
discriminating bad people in the society. This keeps him safer rather than not
knowing at all anything about how the mind of strangers who are bad work. Seriously,
if you observe your child, they tend to do what they think they should do and
not what you say they should do. We should not argue with what they think is
right. I always let experience provide the lesson. We cannot over rule their
judgment. We are here to guide without making them feel inconvenient.
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Talking to strangers doesn't mean he should go
with the stranger
Little DC’s communication and comprehension skills made him
smart and confident in expressing what he feels about other people and towards
any event.
Here are some of our advice to him:
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- There's no big guy or girl who would ask for a toddler's help except me and daddy, so never give help to big guys and girls you don't know.
- You can talk to people you don't know but never go with them.
- Run if somebody offers you candies, lollipops, popcorn, sandwich, hotdog, balloons, toys and anything from people you don't know
- If you are lost, look for a policeman or manong guard. If there are no people in uniform around, look for a lola or a lady who has a child and ask them.
There is a big difference in the sequence of events. If you are
talking about safety, I am confident Little DC could say "no" politely (or maybe rudely). If he is
being forced to go with a stranger, then he should make a scene at once to
catch the attention of the other adults around. We are actually role playing and practicing shouting "HELP!!!" inside the house already.
Learning how the world behaves
Teaching how to differentiate between threatening
situations and how to respond to it makes more sense than not to let them talk
with strangers. Evaluating based on instincts could make them safer than just
not talking at all. Children are compliant by nature, but I do not want Little
DC to lose common sense. I would feel better if I can raise a child who fights
than raise a meek one whom the world can abuse later. Every day life is a fight
and Little DC is on it. He is strong and getting smarter each day. This is one
good way to develop logical and analytical thinking skills – talk to strangers!
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